There's one big problem: The apps targeted toward the straights are still where most of the queer users are, too.
How to navigate dating apps when you're bisexual If it's not a man appearing in your feed when you specifically marked that you're searching for women, it's matching with a woman just to be hit with the classic 'My boyfriend and I are looking for a threesome.' (Yikes.)Įven in 2022, these tone-deaf assumptions still find a way to rain on the lesbian online dating experience. (It's hard for some of us to comprehend, but not everyone spends every free minute on TikTok.) Lesbians who have exhausted their local romantic options are still going to want to see who else is out there in time for cuffing season.įor much of current history, some people have acted as though lesbians didn't exist outside of porn and Ellen DeGeneres, while jokes swirled about how girls only turned to dating women if they had a bad experience with a man. The heteronormative weirdness got so alienating that lesbians began turning to TikTok as a means of meeting other single lesbians - turns out, it's a damn good matchmaker.īut it's unrealistic to expect a social media app to work like a dating app for everyone. Online dating as a lesbian, for the most part, still involves having your space invaded by straight people.
